My wife told me about incident that happened to her the other day. She was walking into the building where she works apparently looking down. As she was opening the door, another person was also doing the same on the same door. This startled her and she looked up and said well hello or something to that affect. Apparently, the guy was rather good looking and I guess it caught her off guard.
She thought by telling me this, that I would be jealous or upset. Not at all. Lets face it, there are a lot more handsome men than myself out there in the world. I know that one person she likes a lot is Johnny Depp. I also know there are others that she finds extremely attractive. However, I am not worried.
I got jealous once a long time ago with another girl I dated and decided right then and there that I would never get jealous again and as far as I am aware of, I have not. I did not like the feeling at the time and have not experienced that since. Now I know for some of you women that may upset you as you want us men to get a little jealous, but I ask why play games?
My thought is that if you really want to be with someone else, then go be with that person. Just have the courage to tell me the truth. I know to some of you that may seen callus, but I do not care. People need to really stop playing games in their relationships. To me it seems as though one person is constantly putting the other person through a test and if they pass great, but if they do not then all hell breaks loose.
I know that may sound weird, but I am not about playing games in a relationship. This goes along with you should know me by now type crap. If you want a healthy relationship, then communicate. People do not read minds and most of the time, a person may be preoccupied with some other thoughts. If that person is not paying any attention to you when you talk, then that is a different matter.
Do I want my wife to run off with another person, no. However, if she found someone else that she really wants to be with, then I am not going to stop her either. I realize that some of you women want us men to chase you and my reply is grow up. If you leave that is on you. If my wife left, I am not going to chase her to bring her back to prove that I love her. I would wish her the best, but as soon as she walked out that door the relationship is over.
The next logical question is would I take her back if she came back? I do not know. I do know that I would pray to God to seek answers from Him. That is my advice to any of you who are in a relationship, but not married or you are married or you are married, but separated and thinking about divorce, seek God and wait for His answer. Above all else, control that jealousy because it leads to anger and ultimately to something that you wish you would not have said or done.
So if you are in a relationship right now and experiencing jealous type feelings, then calm down. Do not go to the other extreme either such as hiding your emotions, but instead ask yourself why are you jealous? If the answer is you love them, then as the phrase goes, “to love them is to set them free.” I know that sounds a bit cliche, but if you truly love someone, then you do not want to hurt them and trying to force them to love you will not work.
Again I say go to God and wait for His response. Just remember that His response may not be the one you are looking for.
I pray that if you are experiencing jealousy, that God is able to help you get it under control.