Why are guys such jerks? I am a guy and I am asking that question.
Some guys abuse woman because they are stronger than most and think it is ok to beat woman into submission. All I can say to that is wow! To all of those guys that act this way, I thought you loved the woman you are with?
You do not want a wife or a girlfriend, but a person that will be your slave and bow to your every demand. My suggestion to all of you is go get help. I really think you need spiritual help and suggest that you find someone that deals with deliverance.
Next we have the guys that cheat on their wives/girlfriends. The question is why? My thought is that most of these guys have very low self esteem and when someone shows/pays attention to them that is not their wife or girlfriend they just do not think before they act. Once they have cheated once, there is a good chance they will do it again.
Even if it is not a self esteem issue, it could be that they think they are entitled to something that they are not getting from their wife. Many guys watch porn and they see something that catches their eye and think their wife or girlfriend should behave in a similar fashion and when they say no, these guys get upset. Instead of beating them into submission, the guy decides to look other places to meet their so called needs. Again I thought you loved your wife/girlfriend? You also need help.
Your significant others is not a porn star so do not think she should act that way. You really need to get away from the porn and start behaving the way you use too. This is not easy as the whole goal of porn is to draw you in deeper and deeper. Watch Fireproof to get an idea of what to do and how destructive porn really is.
Then we have those that guys where we do not expect our wives to change and this is the category I fall into. My wife has put on some weight and I have let if affect my attraction for her.
We expect our wives to stay the same weight and build as the day we married them, but that is really unfair. Our bodies change with time. Guys have you looked in the mirror lately? I bet you are not as thin as you use to be, but does your wife or girlfriend get turned off by your looks? I would guess that most do not.
Woman are after that connection and intimacy is just one form of that connection. They day you reject them because of their looks is the day that you have really messed up. While beating your significant other or expecting your significant other to be a porn star is bad, rejecting them because of they look is far worse.
You have made your significant other feel like they can never meet your expectation and they just give up. They figure why should I ever try since nothing is ever good enough. Worse is that if they lose a few pounds and you are interested again this will just really piss them off and make them feel like you are not in love with them, but their appearance.
It is tough for us who are more about looks. We are taught from an early age to judge many things based on looks. When you shop for meat what do you go for? The really fatty cuts which will contain all the flavor or the really lean cuts. I typically go for the really lean cuts. Do you go for the skinny deer or the one that is full of meat? Do you take the 2 inch fish or the 30 inch one? Do you go for the square car that is held together by rust or the one that looks brand new and sporty?
I do not know about you, but when I was growing up, they use to make fun of guys if they went out with or had sex with fat girls. Guys cannot only be cruel to woman, they can be cruel to each other.
I have rejected my wife because of her looks, she is really overweight, and I know it has hurt her. For this I am truly sorry. I say that I love my wife, but I sure have a funny way of showing it.
For guys who are all about the looks, you too need help. Think about God. Does He really care what you look like? I do not think so. He does not want you to be a glutton, but He loves you regardless of what you look like. Of course, this is true with the others as well. God loves you even if you beat your significant other or even expect them to be a porn star. He does not want you to act this way and expects you to change.
So the question is what are you going to do? You can choose to treat those you love as battering rams or porn stars or inferior due to looks or you can repent and ask God for help.