Take a look at most of today’s television shows starting around the 90s or so and what do you notice about men? They are portrayed as morons or people who only know how to solve things through violence, we are buffoons according to them. While the woman are portrayed as the families hero who really can do no wrong and who are so much better than the man in every way.
The real problem is that people think this is hilarious until it starts to penetrate their family, then things start to change. At this time is when the family structure starts to break down and woman try to take on too many roles, while the man is given the role of the family idiot.
Even Dr Phil once said on his shows that if mama isn’t happy, then no one is happy. Wow! So men have to admit they are wrong or act stupid all the time just to keep mama happy. Ask my family, if dad is mad then everyone knows it and no one is very happy.
Where is written the Bible that the man is the way our society has portrayed us? News flash it does not and in fact actually portrays us as the exact opposite. Am I saying that men are perfect, no way. However, I am also saying that neither are women.
As a family according to the Bible, the man is the head of the house, but what does that mean. To me it means that in some serious matters what the man decides is the final decision. However, that does not mean the man makes these decisions in absolute solitude. You area a team, but there cannot be two master of a house, just as we cannot serve God or other gods at the same time.
As a team you will need to discuss the important decisions that will ultimately affect the household, but whatever the man decides, you need two both live with it. Does that mean the man cannot change his mind if the woman wants to go one way and the man the other. No, but please do not say “I told you so”, thank the Lord that he realized the path he was taken may not have been the best path. If you rub that decision in his face, that is more than likely going to result in the man never seeing how you see it and taking your advice. Also, please tell your man that if the path he has chosen was the correct path, that he made a good decision.
The same is true for the man. If your plan works, then thank the Lord for the direction He gave you instead of trying to rub it into your spouses face that your way worked. Also, recognize that if the path you chose is not working that the woman may have been right and seek an alternative path.
Remember where wisdom comes from and no it is not age. It comes from the Lord. If age were the great teacher, then so many people who are older would not constantly make the same mistakes over and over again. So make wise decisions with the guidance of the Lord,
So back to my original thought, we need to stop treating men as though they are just second class family members who are nothing but buffoons. It has already been proven that children do better when the man is part of their lives so make them as such.
I pray that your family is able to see each other the way God sees you. God loves each of us and has a special purpose for us. I also pray that if there is tension in your family, that you will take a new look at your family dynamics and incorporate the man as being the head of the household, but remember you are a team. Finally, before making any decisions, seek the advice of the Lord.
May God bless you.