There is an old joke about a husband and wife who go to a marriage counselor. The counselor asks the wife what is wrong with the husband and she just goes on and on. The counselor then asks the husband what is wrong with the the wife. The husband answers that when ever we get into an argument she gets historical on me. The counselor replies don’t you mean hysterical? The husband replies with no I mean historical. When we get into an argument, she brings up everything wrong I have done in the past.
My wife is still upset with me about something she believes I said, but I do not recall saying it. We got into an argument on our way home not over that, but over the fact that she is now saying I said she made it up. Maybe I did, but I do not recall that. I do recall most of our conversation that day, but I do not recall saying that. However, I will give her this. When I am done with an argument, I am done. Most of the crap is not stored in my brain because it is not worth storing.
We were discussing that I said she made up the conversation. What I basically said to her after that is that I am to trust you when you say you said something as being true even though I may have never heard it nor was it ever said and when you say I did not say something as also being true when I know I said it. What this boils down to men, is you are always wrong even when you may be right.
I said that to her, but she said no, that is not true. Then we are at an impasse because if you believe you said something and I said you did not or I believe that I said something and you said I did not, then who is right and who is wrong?
This then got me thinking. I know I have said stuff to her in the past, but she will tell me that I did not say it. I would argue with her, but let I would eventually let it go. If you are telling me that I did not say something when I know I did, aren’t you telling me I made it up? To me it is the exact same thing without actually using the words you made it up.
Does right or wrong even matter any more in this or any situation? Should men be docile and accept the fact that they will never be right? Should woman? Is it worth arguing over? What should be done to resolve the conflict? Is there a resolution?
There is only one way to resolve this or any argument and that is take it to God. We need to forgive each other, but remember that forgiving is not forgetting, but we do not need to throw something from the past in each others face. One needs to just stop arguing. There can be no argument if one just stops. Sure the other may continue for a bit, but once you are not responding, that kind of takes the wind out of the sails.