There was a tee shirt by Forever 21 that read “Don’t say maybe if you want to say no”. Females took offense to it because they felt like it was blaming them for rape. As a man that read that, rape was the furthest thing from my mind and I agreed with what the shirt said.
So too often in today’s society, we are not allowed to say no because it may hurt someone. Therefore, we have to say maybe knowing that we are never planning to do what was requested.
So why can’t we say no? We can and people just have to get over themselves. I do not care who you are, if I do not want to do something, then I need to tell you no. If I truly do not care and the answer could be I might, then maybe is also an acceptable answer, but let the person know as soon as possible if you are able to what was requested. It is unacceptable to say maybe to a request and never do it or to never let the person know you are not planning to do it.
For all of you women that immediately went to rape, I have to wonder about you. Why was your first instinct rape? Did you do something that you wished you wouldn’t have done? If so, I am sorry that you did something you regretted, but get over yourself and accept responsibility for your actions. If you did not say no, but wanted too, then that is your fault. We do not have to be PC on everything that is said.
If you think I am blaming woman for being raped, I am not, but at times the way a woman acts in public or what she wears can be very enticing to a man and lets face it, woman like that attention at times. Things may start down a path and then it gets to hot and heavy and the woman does not tell the man to stop so she wants to cry rape.
If a woman says stop, then I really do not care what the man has to say, the man should stop. Who do I blame for both situations, the parents. Is it 100% there fault, no, but the majority of the time, the parents are not acting as parents but as best friends.
Parents need to tell their children no and stick to it, if that is what they mean, not maybe. So what if the child throws a temper tantrum, let them. There is a saying “Spare the rod, spoil the child”. That quote is taken from Bible
Proverbs 13:24 New International Version (NIV)
24 Whoever spares the rod hates their children,
but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.
I am not talking about beating the crap out of your child, that is a bit extreme. However, this timeout crap does not work either. Many a children were raised being spanked, hit with a belt, or having a switch used on their legs without negative consequences like the psychologist want you to think. Children need to learn boundaries plain and simple and if we as parents do not teach them, then society will.
I pray that you have the courage to say and mean no, when you mean no and this goes for men and woman and has nothing to do with rape. I pray that if you have been a victim of rape, that you can find peace which can be done through Jesus Christ, so start a relationship with Him today. In Jesus name I ask for this, Amen!