For about a week, I spent time with my family and my wife’s family at a family reunion. I was dreading this because I normally end up in some kind of argument, especially with my wife’s brother.
This time everything went smoothly for the most part. All I have to say is thank you Lord. I am reminded of this one simple verse
2 Timothy 2:24 New International Version (NIV)
24 And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful.
About the 4th night there, I noticed my brother-in-law was not in the greatest of moods. So I walked outside and asked him if he was ok. He asked why and I told him that I noticed he seemed to be in a foul mood. He told me he was not feeling well and I said something to the effect of sorry to hear that and I hope you feel better soon. When I walked in, my wife asked me if I was nuts for fear that it would start a potential confrontation. It did not because I generally cared about his well being and I think he knew it. When he walked in, my wife said to her brother that she hoped he felt better soon.
I did not think of the above verse at the time, but I was trying to be kind and helpful when I approached my brother-in-law. Sometimes all it takes is a person to just express a general concern for someone by asking a simple question and actually listening to the response. This one simple act can potentially deescalate a potential situation and I believe that based on his current attitude at the time it was going to escalate into something.
I pray that if you notice someone is hurting, that you will have the courage to simply ask them if something is wrong and be genuine when you ask. However, be prepared for a response that may get you more involved in their life. Are you willing to do that?