While I know that parents love all their children and each as a unique relationship, there is something special between a father and daughter. Most daughters are their daddy’s little princess, daddy’s little girl, little pumpkin, care bear, doodle-bug, cupcake, sweet pea, etc. That is not to say that dads do not have cute nicknames for their sons, but with the daughters it is different. I am sure some will revert to psychology and think of the Electra Complex, but that is not what this is referring too, at least not for me. Some will say that daughters have their fathers wrapped around their little pinkies and to be honest that may be partially true.
Lets face it, most if not all guys are horn dogs and guys need to feel superior to woman. I know I was that way, just ask my wife if you ever get the chance. When we were first married, I felt threatened by my wife’s intelligence. It took a long time for me to come with the terms that she is more likeable and smarter than I.
We have both tried to raise our kids to be independent people. I wanted my daughter to be totally independent, in other words she did not need to rely on a guy at all ever. If she found someone, then it would just help to compliment who she is. That is not to say that I want her to be selfish or self centered. It is just my opinion, that when people rely upon others for the happiness, well being, and other aspects of their life, that is when problems arise.
Ephesians 5:31 New International Version (NIV)
31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”
I urge you to read the rest of the passage, but to me this is saying that when a man and woman get married, they become one. Not one plus a submissive, but they are one. It may seem weird to think about, but to me this means they are equal. Of course there cannot be two people in charge and that is the mans job as head of the household, but that does not mean he makes all the decisions without the his wife. They are one now.
There have been times throughout her life that daddy beast mode wanted to come out and go destroy whatever was hurting my little girl, but I did not. If she relies upon me to take care of her problems all the time, then she will never become an independent person. So our philosophy while raising the kids was to fight their battles when they were young, encourage them to fight them when they were young teenagers with our support, and to fight them as older teenagers/young adults asking us for advice. It seems to have worked for the most part. I am not going to say it was or is perfect, but I think we have two pretty great kids.
Did I get off track, not really, but I am sure it may seem that way. Daughters are very special to their fathers. Fathers will do anything they can for their daughters throughout their entire life, if they are able. If you and your daughter are having problems, you really need to ask yourself why?
It is hard to raise a girl in today’s world. Society tells them they can be like a guy, act like a guy, do whatever a guy can do, etc and I am sorry but that is just not true. Look at the number of female assaults and rapes that have been happening. I am not totally blaming the girls, but they are putting themselves in dangerous situations without thinking about the consequences. My wife and I have told our daughter repeatedly that she is doing this, but she seems to ignore everything we say as though we are stupid and were born old and without a clue. The world has not changed that much in the last 40 to 50 years, it is just easier to obtain information.
Should a woman be scared to go out and do things, absolutely not and if we lived in a perfect world, everything that has been taught to woman would be correct. However, we do not live in a perfect world, In fact this world is under Satan’s control and because of this, there will always be a man or even another woman that will try to hurt a female. While it is true that both men and women need to be on their toes, it is especially true for women.
Daughters, I urge you to listen to your parents as they know more than you think. They are not trying to destroy your life, your relationships, your reputation, your dates, etc. They just want to see you come home in one piece. While if anything happened to you, your mom would be upset, but I believe it would be devastating to your father as they see themselves as their little girls protector.