Husbands and wives will fight or argue. Usually, it is over money or how to raise the kids, but there are other times where you will get mad at each other.
God has instructed us to not let the sun go down while you are angry.
Ephesians 4:26 New International Version (NIV)
26 “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,
Now this is not only applicable to marriages, but to other relationships as well.
Last night my wife got mad at me because of something I said, but I disagree with her in that I did not say it. I remember having foot cramps and getting up to finish watching a movie. I remember going back to bed and her talking to me about her tossing and turning because she could not sleep. I laid on my belly and went to sleep.
While she may be correct, I do not think she was and it is has bothered me all day. Not to put my wife down, but her memory and hearing is not the best at times. She has incredible long term memory, but short term is awful. Earlier that night I said Seth Green and she heard Seth Greenroy. She forgets stuff all the time like when we had a late lunch at a local restaurant and she thought she had only eaten breakfast. She once had a dream where she woke up mad at me and actually hit me and told me that I should not do the things I did in her dream. She was only half kidding. So am I convinced that I made the statement she is accusing me of, no.
Am I angry, no. However, she was last night. If it bothered her that much, she should have woke me up to talk about it. She does not get over things easily and the longer it goes the madder she gets. I on the other hand can go to bed mad and wake up okay and ready to go without any issue. Does that make me weird? Probably.
Is she mad now, no. I am sure she was mostly over it when she left this morning for work.
Are you mad at someone? Have you resolved the issue before you went to bed or before the sun went down? Do you let your anger fester until you explode? You have the right to be mad, but you also must talk to the person to whom you are mad with. Just because you are mad at something someone did, does not mean that they know you are mad for that reason. Communication is a two way street and people do not read minds.
Remember this, in your anger do not sin. I know I fail at this often and have asked God for help. If you are letting the sun go down and you have not tried to resolve your anger, then I believe this too is a sin.
There is no easy simple solution other than to pray to God through Jesus to help you with your anger and the ways you handle it. God has changed many people, but people must be willing to change. Do you want to change how you handle anger, or do you want to hold on to it and keep doing what is not working? I know I want to change.